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Post by Deleted on Jun 21, 2019 10:33:12 GMT
I never lost the time to make up for. Im happily middle aged, and twice a widow. Theres not much I haven't done in life that I really want to do. If someone comes along in my travels I enjoy spending time with that's great. If I don't its still ok cause Im the loner type anyhow.
My relationships weren't miserable. Their passing on ended their physical suffering, so I found peace it that. Sure I still miss them both dearly. True love never dies. Its alive within us always. Might I be so fortunate to stumble upon love for a third time in this earthly life.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 21, 2019 22:07:33 GMT
It varies, but a lot of them I've met in the local music scene. I don't know where they get the fucking energy for it all, either. I like a wild and crazy night out as much as anyone else, but these women believe every moment outside of work should be an all out, balls to the wall party. The crazy part is, I'm a non-drinker. I think it boils down to their self made persona that they have to keep up as the crazy up for anything type in the eyes of their friends. Quite child like mind set in my eyes.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 21, 2019 22:15:28 GMT
It varies, but a lot of them I've met in the local music scene. I don't know where they get the fucking energy for it all, either. I like a wild and crazy night out as much as anyone else, but these women believe every moment outside of work should be an all out, balls to the wall party. The crazy part is, I'm a non-drinker. I think it boils down to their self made persona that they have to keep up as the crazy up for anything type in the eyes of their friends. Quite child like mind set in my eyes. Yes, it could be a number of things, but no matter what they are, I'm currently burned out on it all. Edit: I just noticed that with this post, I went from "junior member" to "full member". Sexual innuendo galore there.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 21, 2019 22:27:26 GMT
I think it boils down to their self made persona that they have to keep up as the crazy up for anything type in the eyes of their friends. Quite child like mind set in my eyes. Yes, it could be a number of things, but no matter what they are, I'm currently burned out on it all. Edit: I just noticed that with this post, I went from "junior member" to "full member". Sexual innuendo galore there. I wonder when you get to 300 posts if it will say Sparta!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 21, 2019 22:34:05 GMT
Cheeky, @thepigofyourdreams ... You hit 100 posts. It changes as your post number goes up automatically. Better enjoy it cuz soon you'll be a "senior member"! (Think it's 300 posts, @spectravision. Sorry.:) Re: your predicament... there are so many different ways people spend their free time post marriage, post raising chidren, post career, etc. Perhaps it's where you're meeting them - the music scene- which indicates they are already party goer's and that's their comfort zone, which could be setting the scene for their preferred dates with you too. And if you're not a drinker, then even less in common. Also, just wish to clarify, my part time relationship wasn't just a good time for the weekends party type of deal ... It was a full relationship with challenges and growth and deepening love, just wasn't full time. And I can say honestly my closest female single friends within 10 years either way of my age feel the same. In my circle, we don't want a full time live-in person at this point in our lives. hou , love your post and I so agree wiith you.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 21, 2019 22:55:10 GMT
Cheeky, @thepigofyourdreams ... You hit 100 posts. It changes as your post number goes up automatically. Better enjoy it cuz soon you'll be a "senior member"! (Think it's 300 posts, @spectravision . Sorry.:) Oh, great. That's when Frivolity E.D. will start setting in.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 21, 2019 23:02:51 GMT
Cheeky, @thepigofyourdreams ... You hit 100 posts. It changes as your post number goes up automatically. Better enjoy it cuz soon you'll be a "senior member"! (Think it's 300 posts, @spectravision . Sorry.:) Oh, great. That's when Frivolity E.D. will start setting in. ^^^The struggle is real~
hahahaha or should I cackle
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Post by bendingbough19 on Jun 22, 2019 3:33:21 GMT
^^^ Now that made me laugh out loud.
Pig, I know plenty of women my age who are no longer married (and a couple who are still married) who enjoy night after night at the bar. They talk about how they want to live it up. I truly don't understand how that lifestyle is living it up. It seems exhausting to me (emotionally, not physically, because I couldn't see myself trying to fake it through such an evening at this point). While I truly enjoy getting out to a pub for live music, I honestly cannot see heading into the bar scene that I frequented during my 20s. I worked late tonight and so ended up driving through the downtown at 8:00 p.m. People were out at the bars and on the streets outside the bars in droves. I'm sure my friends and I could manage to have fun for one night here and there, but not all the time. I wonder what those women are really seeking? I speculate/ theorize it is attention. No relationship, even a bad one, takes adjustments in the level of attention one gets. Heading into the bar scene where many are drinking and inhibitions may be reduced can often lead to conditions ripe for all kinds of "opportunistic attention" if that makes any sense.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 22, 2019 6:39:55 GMT
Those are precisely the women I'm referring to, however, in my case, they're not wanting committed relationships. They want to be free to have their nightly fun. Some of them even admit to being functioning alcoholics but refuse to see that a crash and burn is inevitable.
As I said, though, I go through periods where I'm fine with all of this, but at this very moment, I'm burned out.
Honestly, this is a very weird period in my life. I don't want to be in a relationship, yet I'm tired of being a party girl magnet, too.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 22, 2019 10:31:25 GMT
Perhaps an introspective and intuitive break from the intensity of the party girl type is what you need. Sometimes healing ourselves from the outside in, getting deeper as we go, is what our spirit desires the most. We might not even see this in ourselves, but time reveals all.
My advice is don't fight with yourself about following your heart, whatever that passion might be.
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Post by awesomejoe73 on Jun 22, 2019 12:42:15 GMT
Exactly! Your friends are attention whores LOL. Men go to bars to watch the game and watch chicks and try to get them and GOD willing get laid. Women go to bars regularly to watch each other get hit on or gawked at, regardless if they take the bait or not or want to hook up or not. Don't believe me? Go to a quiet "old mans bar" and see how many women are there. Not many (thus the name old mans bar). They go where the action is. Also Sex and the City made it popular that it is ok to just go out and hang every night and that they don't need men. Great! But incidentally they choose locations where hungry men gather.
Move out of Orlando. Orlando has to be 1 of the top "party locations in the US along with Vegas, Miami, and NYC. The city attracts a younger population and older from the suburbs to be entertained. Infact you don't even like heat why are you there? LOL(music careers in other places)
LOL. you know guys would do better with gals if they tryto copy King Leonidas from the 300. That is the advice I used to give.Deep down masculinity wins. I swear go on a date and scream when asked an annoying question " because this is Sparta!" and you will do very well.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 22, 2019 12:49:17 GMT
I never lost the time to make up for. Im happily middle aged, and twice a widow. Theres not much I haven't done in life that I really want to do. If someone comes along in my travels I enjoy spending time with that's great. If I don't its still ok cause Im the loner type anyhow. My relationships weren't miserable. Their passing on ended their physical suffering, so I found peace it that. Sure I still miss them both dearly. True love never dies. Its alive within us always. Might I be so fortunate to stumble upon love for a third time in this earthly life. I never lost the time to make up for, either. Had a good time, did as I pleased. Got married at 30, had a good time, some misery at the end when husband got ill and then died. Which necessarily shifted my perspective and totally changed my life circumstances. Was hormonal and inexperienced at '21'---what sane woman would want to go back to that!?!
I'm wondering if it is different for guys? They 'peak' at 21 so they assume women also consider that the best time of their life? IDK
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Post by Deleted on Jun 22, 2019 14:47:12 GMT
^ Maybe it’s individual or age related more than gender specific? Don’t know men who want a nightly party scene either. Or maybe we’re just old fuddy duddies (sp?) now! This just came on the radio, always loved it and thought to put here. Not lonely, but great song and message.
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Post by awesomejoe73 on Jun 22, 2019 17:34:20 GMT
^^^^ As men age the hangover stays longer and longer so nightly partying gets in the way of productivity just in time for a period in life men want to be more productive(so they can retire). Oh yeah.... we have the little friend to worry about:E.D. so nightly partying actually is counter productive in more ways than one. I also thing your right about age related thing but one maybe specific to gender changes. Men generally don't worry about aging. Heck it gets better for us in some ways. Perhaps going out nightly is a way women try to recapture youth? Then again if there are young ones around we can be deemed creepy when out. Dunno.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 22, 2019 17:47:22 GMT
When I personally wish to recapture my youth its going to the spa for microdermabrasion and laser lipo. Then its off to the MAC counter for that free make over I made an appointment for, and make my minimum required purchase. Its not going to a club. They remind us how old we are, not how young we can feel. Getting off into the wilderness to camp for a few weeks works wonders for me too. Out there no one is around to remind me of wrinkles or cellulite (including myself). I too busy painting with water colors, taking pictures, fasting in prayer, reading scripture, or sleeping under the stars.
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