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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2019 13:58:31 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2019 13:59:35 GMT
I laughed out loud there cbgb77. I'm sure you guys will be fine. Aint love grand~
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Post by awesomejoe73 on Jul 29, 2019 14:42:11 GMT
Sounds like the BOO HOO club! Sure relationships can end. Friendships can end. Jobs can end. Pets can end. The Iphone breaks down .See the pattern? Everyone say after me...EVERYTHING can end, including your own lives. That doesn't mean we shouldn't be in them though. Life is about experiences. Don't get me wrong, casual one nighters are good too, but that wouldn't work for all of us. If that was all I Would ever hope for then I would just dial up barbie the hooker because a line of strange women entering and leaving my bed regularly would lose its appeal and I would rather pay someone to leave who I don't care about then PRETEND to care about someone I don't just to get intimacy.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2019 15:20:53 GMT
^^^Totally agree. BOO HOO Club. Too funny.
And not only 'can' EVERYTHING end, EVERYTHING 'does' end. Gotta learn to deal with it, or ya know, just hang yourself with Doctor Who Scarf
(cbgb77<<<your GF could make a 'killing' knitting a bunch of those scarves. hahahahaha)
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Post by cbgb77 on Jul 29, 2019 15:31:21 GMT
^^^Totally agree. BOO HOO Club. Too funny. And not only 'can' EVERYTHING end, EVERYTHING 'does' end. Gotta learn to deal with it, or ya know, just hang yourself with Doctor Who Scarf (cbgb77<<<your GF could make a 'killing' knitting a bunch of those scarves. hahahahaha) Lol
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Post by awesomejoe73 on Jul 29, 2019 17:19:29 GMT
On this forum we have potential buyers of the scarf.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2019 18:18:21 GMT
Sounds like the BOO HOO club! Sure relationships can end. Friendships can end. Jobs can end. Pets can end. The Iphone breaks down .See the pattern? Everyone say after me...EVERYTHING can end, including your own lives. That doesn't mean we shouldn't be in them though. Life is about experiences. Don't get me wrong, casual one nighters are good too, but that wouldn't work for all of us. If that was all I Would ever hope for then I would just dial up barbie the hooker because a line of strange women entering and leaving my bed regularly would lose its appeal and I would rather pay someone to leave who I don't care about then PRETEND to care about someone I don't just to get intimacy. We have what is known as varying perspectives and preferences. How do we determine which is right or which is wrong? If I or anyone else has the capacity to be genuinely happy without ever experiencing romantic "love" again, how can anyone find fault with it?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2019 20:11:00 GMT
On this forum we have potential buyers of the scarf. Already have one, from like 30 years ago. No plans to buy another.
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Post by cbgb77 on Jul 30, 2019 13:01:30 GMT
That doesn't mean at all, that one person is ignoring the other person's complaints. More commonly what happens is, that one or both people are each living out an IMAGINARY version of the kind of life they think they have claimed, by getting involved romantically with the other one. But one or both people are actually living out a set of (often unconsciously scripted) STORY versions of real life, and aren't actually ever really living with and truly SEEING each other. Everything can go to hell in an instant, but it's not because RELATIONSHIPS are inherently unreliable; it's more like what happened to the world economy back in 2008: wealth didn't really vanish overnight, back then. What actually happened was, that THE WEALTH WAS NEVER REALLY THERE TO BEGIN WITH. The only thing that happened instantly, was that people REALIZED that it never existed. There are many cases where all of the aforementioned might be true, but not all. I believe genuine love can die. I also believe people can convince themselves they're not "in love" anymore, only to discover they are, as well. Every long term relationship I've been in that was ended by the woman, whether it was weeks, months, or even years, they always came back. They presented me with an "our time apart made me realize how much I loved you" claim. I've never been one to attempt rekindling things, though. Did you tell them "We are never ever, ever getting back together" ?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 31, 2019 6:28:49 GMT
That doesn't mean at all, that one person is ignoring the other person's complaints. More commonly what happens is, that one or both people are each living out an IMAGINARY version of the kind of life they think they have claimed, by getting involved romantically with the other one. But one or both people are actually living out a set of (often unconsciously scripted) STORY versions of real life, and aren't actually ever really living with and truly SEEING each other. Everything can go to hell in an instant, but it's not because RELATIONSHIPS are inherently unreliable; it's more like what happened to the world economy back in 2008: wealth didn't really vanish overnight, back then. What actually happened was, that THE WEALTH WAS NEVER REALLY THERE TO BEGIN WITH. The only thing that happened instantly, was that people REALIZED that it never existed. There are many cases where all of the aforementioned might be true, but not all. I believe genuine love can die. I also believe people can convince themselves they're not "in love" anymore, only to discover they are, as well. Every long term relationship I've been in that was ended by the woman, whether it was weeks, months, or even years, they always came back. They presented me with an "our time apart made me realize how much I loved you" claim. I've never been one to attempt rekindling things, though. My "favorite" is the one who called me up say 8 years after dumping me, begging me to help fix her computer (failing hard drive). She'd injured her back and gotten laid off from her job (after maybe a year) and was trying to sue them for disability, had a bunch of legal stuff on her computer she needed for the lawyer so I agreed, drove up to Circuit City for a new drive, spent hours copying stuff from the old (failed a few times and had to keep restarting it) drive to the new one - she bought a pizza and a few beers, and we chatted about our cats, and she asked about work and I'd switched jobs twice since and bumped my pay up quite a bit... ...and as I'm swapping the new drive for the old and ready to put the case back together she says: "We should just get married." - totally matter-of-factly/unemotional. I said "Oh, why do you say that?" - Obviously wasn't gonna happen, but I guess I was kinda hoping for a "you're a good guy" compliment or such. "Because now you can afford me." Uhhhh, yah, not a reason to get married in my book. You've never seen someone put a computer back together and "get the heck out of Dodge" so fast.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 31, 2019 8:55:11 GMT
There are many cases where all of the aforementioned might be true, but not all. I believe genuine love can die. I also believe people can convince themselves they're not "in love" anymore, only to discover they are, as well. Every long term relationship I've been in that was ended by the woman, whether it was weeks, months, or even years, they always came back. They presented me with an "our time apart made me realize how much I loved you" claim. I've never been one to attempt rekindling things, though. My "favorite" is the one who called me up say 8 years after dumping me, begging me to help fix her computer (failing hard drive). She'd injured her back and gotten laid off from her job (after maybe a year) and was trying to sue them for disability, had a bunch of legal stuff on her computer she needed for the lawyer so I agreed, drove up to Circuit City for a new drive, spent hours copying stuff from the old (failed a few times and had to keep restarting it) drive to the new one - she bought a pizza and a few beers, and we chatted about our cats, and she asked about work and I'd switched jobs twice since and bumped my pay up quite a bit... ...and as I'm swapping the new drive for the old and ready to put the case back together she says: "We should just get married." - totally matter-of-factly/unemotional. I said "Oh, why do you say that?" - Obviously wasn't gonna happen, but I guess I was kinda hoping for a "you're a good guy" compliment or such. "Because now you can afford me." Uhhhh, yah, not a reason to get married in my book. You've never seen someone put a computer back together and "get the heck out of Dodge" so fast. That's sickening. Let me guess, she's one of those women who screams from the mountain tops about equality, but wants no part of the responsibility that comes along with it? I always manage to find out where the women I involve myself with stand in that regard very early on. I've got no time for women who don't have their own money.
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Post by awesomejoe73 on Jul 31, 2019 12:47:13 GMT
^^^ I am still figuring out why he did a big job for no pay for someone from the past who hurt him. Forums1 I can use someone to fix my satellite dish, up for the drive? :P This reminds me of the POF member story who went to buy a cookie and pizza for some "chick" he spoke to and delivered it and let and NEVER to see her again!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 31, 2019 13:51:27 GMT
^ hah, yeah, point taken. Many decades ago now, when I was more naieve and still believed in trying to keep some goodwill with ex's. Nowadays I avoid helping anyone as much as I can, especially with computers (my career, lol) - I've even got a "no, I won't help with your computer" t-shirt. Other than my neighbor (70) who asked me to help him move a sofa, or unload a generator from his pickup last year - quick 5-minute jobs, and who's reciprocated when I've needed a quick hand (good to be on decent terms with one neighbor anyways), I avoid offering help - invariably it winds up being longer and more involved than I bargained for. One friend came over a few months back with bits of plastic pipe - leaky sink trap he (he's a "tries himself and breaks it worse" type disaster) virtually broken off... I could tell he wanted me to go to his place to help fix it, I feigned ignorance and suggested a plumber.
At least with the neighbor I know the only things he's ever asked for is a "pair of hands/muscle" for a minute... or "Hold the ladder for me as I climb up on the roof, and hang out to call 911 if I fall" type things, that we exchange on occasion cleaning the wood stove flues (we could do it alone, but it's nice to know someone is there just in case).
If it's more involved than that the answer is no. :P
In my "defense" on the ex thing though, she did buy pizza and provide a few beers, it wasn't totally "free".
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Post by bendingbough19 on Aug 1, 2019 1:25:48 GMT
^^^ Wow Forums, how could you have let her get away? KIDDING! Amazing how much some don't even have the basic decency to feel a sense of shame.
Are you Geo? I am trying to figure out who would be that kind. But I don't think Geo drank alcohol. Perhaps I am not remembering correctly.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 1, 2019 1:50:02 GMT
^^^ Wow Forums, how could you have let her get away? KIDDING! Amazing how much some don't even have the basic decency to feel a sense of shame. Are you Geo? I am trying to figure out who would be that kind. But I don't think Geo drank alcohol. Perhaps I am not remembering correctly. Dunno who Geo is... I bailed on POF long ago though. Think I had this same name on POF, been many years though, bug could verify that, she's one of the few on POF (only 3) I actually met IRL. I gave up on the dating part and just hung out in the forums for a few years, but it's probably getting close to a decade since I was on there even.
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