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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2020 2:07:31 GMT
This probably sounds weird, but my greatest use for Facebook is for knowing where people I want to avoid are. Everyone has a raging boner for doing the "check in" thing and when I see they're at a club I was intending to go, I'll go somewhere else.Good idea. Since I'm not a swinger, nor bi, nor gay, I generally also avoid events and gatherings where raging boners are prevalent.
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Post by julystorm22 on Jan 25, 2020 18:52:42 GMT
1) Guys who take forever to text back are either not too into you or they are trying to play it cool Or they simply have lives outside of being joined at the cyber-hip with a woman. I don't think that's the case nowadays with guys my age. Most are constantly checking their cellphones. I tend to check my cellphone more when I'm at work (between homecare clients when I'm sitting in my car) but when I get home I toss my cellphone to the side and maybe look at it a few hours later.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2020 19:29:52 GMT
We've already established you live on another planet filled with soy boys.
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Post by julystorm22 on Jan 30, 2020 3:56:33 GMT
We've already established you live on another planet filled with soy boys. I'd say there are definitely urban/rural differences but many people are constantly glued to their cellphones...
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2020 18:14:05 GMT
And I wonder here in SK how many people are going to hit the magical $4080 and in total fines and twelve demerits if they get caught driving and using a cellphone three times within a year. A demerit adds $50 to your license.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2020 19:50:27 GMT
I've just seen a headline saying "I was in a boring relationship for 24 years" Funny stuff. She couldn't possibly have been responsible in any shape or form lol...
Avoid!
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Post by julystorm22 on Feb 4, 2020 23:02:10 GMT
I don't know. It's tough. Is the fact that someone is boring a decent reason to break up with them? If you don't have kids together then I say for sure. However, if you are raising kids together you owe it to those children to stick it out. Once you have kids together, the most important thing is to provide a safe and stable environment for your kids. And if you are bored, make the decision to have a life outside your marriage (I'm not saying have an affair though). Find friends, find activities, find things that make you happy as an individual. Once you make that decision to have kids together, if that person is a good person and reliable and responsible, there isn't a good reason to wreck your kids life because you are "bored". It happens way too much and it infuriates me.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2020 23:39:03 GMT
I've just seen a headline saying "I was in a boring relationship for 24 years" Funny stuff. She couldn't possibly have been responsible in any shape or form lol...
Avoid!
Oh, no. Of course not, because it's man's job to be the little queen's court jester. It's also HIS fault her dumb ass stuck around for 24 years.
I'll say it for the umpteenth time....is it any wonder why more and more men are saying NO to relationships?
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2020 23:56:32 GMT
I've just seen a headline saying "I was in a boring relationship for 24 years" Funny stuff. She couldn't possibly have been responsible in any shape or form lol...
Avoid!
Oh, no. Of course not, because it's man's job to be the little queen's court jester. It's also HIS fault her dumb ass stuck around for 24 years.
I'll say it for the umpteenth time....is it any wonder why more and more men are saying NO to relationships?Oh, I agree. I would like a relationship. But, The negatives far outweigh the positives. Also you read on the profiles. My kids always come first and you will have to accept being second best while expecting to put them first with all the children that aren't your children.
I have no issue with kids always coming first. My lad does. but he is an adult. It is more of choose between him and a woman scenario which would make me wonder why they are still talking to me in that instant. But, why would I put myself last. when I can put myself first?
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2020 0:20:00 GMT
I don't know. It's tough. Is the fact that someone is boring a decent reason to break up with them? If you don't have kids together then I say for sure. However, if you are raising kids together you owe it to those children to stick it out. Once you have kids together, the most important thing is to provide a safe and stable environment for your kids. And if you are bored, make the decision to have a life outside your marriage (I'm not saying have an affair though). Find friends, find activities, find things that make you happy as an individual. Once you make that decision to have kids together, if that person is a good person and reliable and responsible, there isn't a good reason to wreck your kids life because you are "bored". It happens way too much and it infuriates me. Yes, It does happen a lot and it should infuriate you. These people are the type that uses the kids as a bargaining tool. The problem is that they treat the significant other like the whole entertainment system. Their whole life and smother the other person.
I couldn't imagine sat on a sofa cuddling every night for eternity these days. It makes me cringe at the thought of it. I'd rather do other stuff. There is balance. But, the whole constant in each others face just don't gel with me now. Don't get me wrong there should be couple time where it is quality time. The whole constant thing is just no.
Read a book. Scratch you bum. Bake. make music. write a book. There is plenty people can do while both at home without smothering and it goes both ways.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2020 1:18:02 GMT
Hey, there are plenty of women who are saying no to relationships too.
So, you guys see a headline and seem to assume automatically she’s blaming her partner and not taking responsibility for her boredom. Sure it could be that, or not. Think we all know people of both sexes who stayed in relationships where they settled for less than their ideal, realizing no one ever lives up to our ideal, least of all ourselves.
So some of those unhappy or bored people came to realize they could stay no longer, some came to realize they needed to change themselves to change their life, that no one could do it for them, and some didn’t change at all and just carried on often ‘for the kids’ and living unhappily (which to me also is not good for the children).
Guess I’m just sticking up for the fact that both sexes do it, not just women. Maybe at my age, low 60’s, with adult children and grandchildren, I see what happens another 10, 20 or 25 years on from where pig, spectra and july are, so I find less and less women looking for knights to still rescue them. Most women I know have grown up by now and quite enjoy their independence from men. :)
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2020 1:47:29 GMT
Willow with all due respect. She is certainly not taking responsibility or why put it on a dating profile like a fog horn to us Men so we aren't boring to entertain her 1 dimensional mindset. A lot of relationships can become day to day mundane. It happens and both parties are responsible. She looks proper scummy to.
Yes, Plenty of Women are independent and don't need saving. But, You'd be surprised by delusional mindsets on the websites. Also, Who's to say we want to save them? I don't.
I think online dating is the worst form of dating ever. The thing is I can't think of a Woman except my Sons mother who didn't one side blame the bloke or blokes they were previously in relationships with and I've heard it lots in passing in life to from family members, friends etc. The thing is people only tell the one sided story that makes them smell of roses while making the other person look bad because they couldn't possibly be to blame one bit. I call BS as people for most part tell the most stupid of lies at the best of times and stats show 2/3 approx of adult in 10 mins of conversation tell average of 3 lies. I had a better source in the past that was higher rate. I suggest look into it. It is interesting. One of the best lies to my face was. I'm on the change so don't need to use contraception as unlikely to get pregnant. Yeah, Whatever...
When my Son come round last time and saw POF on my PC. He said " Dad. Just delete that shit already"
Don't get me wrong. I do see decent women on there. However, They want kids most of the time and well, I don't need a screaming baby in my life unless I can give it back to my son if he has any haha.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2020 2:06:26 GMT
^ Ahh, I didn’t realise you saw it on a profile in the pond. I thought you meant headline in the paper or a link on fb or something like that.
In this case I agree. She could use some help with her attitude and definitely could use some help with her profile. :) Do they still do that there? I guess one positive is at least she makes it clear and obvious instead of luring you in and then blaming you for her problems later when she shows her true colours.
It’s sortof sad how many people never find what makes them happy for themselves. But it’s known two halves don’t make a whole when it comes to relationships. Just makes two halves holding each other up, or not.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2020 2:23:28 GMT
^ Ahh, I didn’t realise you saw it on a profile in the pond. I thought you meant headline in the paper or a link on fb or something like that. In this case I agree. She could use some help with her attitude and definitely could use some help with her profile. :) Do they still do that there? I guess one positive is at least she makes it clear and obvious instead of luring you in and then blaming you for her problems later when she shows her true colours. It’s sortof sad how many people never find what makes them happy for themselves, by themselves. But it’s known two halves don’t make a whole when it comes to relationships. Just makes two halves holding each other up, or not. Yeah, On POF. Her profile is dire. One sentence.
The thing is she isn't only culprit. Also after having an insight into many Women minds online because they don't have that filter that we have in person. It kind of puts me of dating on a whole. I'm just not willing to put the effort in now. Women can make an effort with me or I don't care because you may think we are harsh by referring to them thinking we are entertainment and that is exactly how it is. One out of last 30 Woman I have spoke to actually asked something about me.
Exactly, You are responsible for your own happiness and that is one of the other sayings on there. Looking for someone to make me happy. I roll my eyes at that. It is about holding each each other up and being there in good and the bad times.
and when I say Women. I don't mean collectively as in all. POF is a Magnet for some right fookwits.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2020 2:26:13 GMT
Hey, there are plenty of women who are saying no to relationships too. True, and I love them with all my heart. They're not the majority, but there are enough that I don't ever have to worry about a drought, so to speak.
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