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Post by Stumour on Aug 8, 2015 10:06:48 GMT
^^^ not even a relationship breakdown there when there are no relationships to break, never mind look at percentages!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 9, 2019 19:29:10 GMT
Resurrecting this thread with finding this from a friend today that really resonates with my feelings on this subject.
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Post by cbgb77 on Jun 10, 2019 15:06:46 GMT
Me and my girlfriend are still in the "Honeymoon" phase. It's awesome! We are both 65 and we both have had alot of practice so i think we have this relationship thing pretty well sussed.
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Post by fivemarie on Jun 15, 2019 16:45:33 GMT
In my experience one always loves more than the other. That person may do more than their 50%. Whatever works for a couple works.
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Post by cooldog65 on Jun 17, 2019 7:56:27 GMT
I have often had to do most of the work in a relationship to keep it going. It eventually ends up one sided. I'm at this point of pretty much being burnt out on relationships.
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Post by pfif on Jun 18, 2019 7:29:07 GMT
50/50
This expression is another import from the workplace.
In the late 19th Century (I'd guess) work became more formal, and measuring the work output of a person was still a new idea (somewhat, and only in some specific new contexts).
Assembly line is the low-hanging fruit, there (it is a very easy example to point to, with regards to productivity).
(So-called) relationships have universally borrowed from other areas of culture. I would suggest that work culture (everything a culture has to say about, or that affects, labor) (often for hire) .. was one of the primary cultural areas borrowed from, in forming memes (basic, supposed shared cultural values) with regard to (so-called) relationships.
It's a franchise! That's why it (They) try so hard, to make it look like the others!
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Post by igorfrankensteen on Jul 28, 2019 17:26:00 GMT
Can relationships really be 50/50? Since I've never been in a successful one I'm wondering how you see relationships that work. The way I envision things is giving the other person all of me, accepting them and sharing responsibilities. Things can't always be 50/50 because there will be times of personal failure. How would that be dealt with? I think the key is, that the COMMITMENT needs to be 100% in each direction. Then let the day to day MECHANICS of the relationship, fall as they may. One person will be better at a given function than the other, so they will handle that stuff; one person might make more money than the other, so they will pay more bills. If the COMMITMENT is clear and complete, that stuff wont matter. When people start calculating who does how much, it means that the commitment isn't valid any more. Once the commitment isn't stable, everything else will tend to fall apart. Often BECAUSE the people are stopping to calculate things, and to criticize and resent each other for imbalances. The kind of relationships that can be really fifty fifty and be successful, are contractual BUSINESS transactions.
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Post by kayjay on Aug 18, 2019 2:26:15 GMT
Very well said, Igor.
Successful relationships are 'all in'. Or they are not.
If you set conditions for love, though....those conditions just might come to fuition and your 'love' is likely to be tested.
Conversely...loving unconditionally and setting red lines are not mutually exclusive.
Love is complicated but wonderful! Go figure!
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Post by lovepanky on Jan 28, 2021 0:03:20 GMT
Eunuchs live longer lives. I finally figured out why.
I think 70 might be a good time to get neutered and hopefully get a 20 year extension.
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Post by carpe diem on Jan 29, 2021 22:22:27 GMT
Certain types of people like to quantify their life experiences, their worlds.---People, places and things. They always want to know 'what time is it?', or 'are/am We/I there yet?', have I got my 10,000 steps in today? (let me check my watch/phone!), things like that. It gives them comfort to know *where they are* in the world. Nothing wrong with that.
This subset of folks probably *would* wonder if their relationship was 50/50 or if it was skewed 30/70 or whatever, so they could wrap their mind around the status of the relationship at any given time. And know where they stood. Even if it was just a fantasy in their own mind with no respect to reality or what the other person in the relationship thought was going on.
Eunuchs unite, Take back the Night~ hahahahahaha
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