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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2015 2:16:52 GMT
^^^ I like that.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2015 15:26:16 GMT
I don't think that works as much anymore, everyone has instant access to the internet on their instantly available 'smart' phone that can find them an instant match for an instant relationship that, if it doesn't seem to be working fast enough, they can instantly dump for another... who has time for that 'working things out' crap between emails and texts and tweets and...?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2015 17:56:32 GMT
forums1, do you think relationships are harder because of technology or is that just an excuse?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2015 23:09:42 GMT
forums1, do you think relationships are harder because of technology or is that just an excuse? Oh, I don't think it's "technology" per se, that's just a symptom I think... remember when you could have a family and raise children on one income working 40hrs/wk? Now it generally takes both adults working, possibly/probably overtime, which leaves less time for the kids, less time for the relationship, etc. Toss in the technology as a distraction/time-waster and a whole bunch of other things that come with a 'fast paced' lifestyle, add in some prozac/wellbutrin/xanax, kids on ritalin and the like, etc... ... and even then all that is probably just syptomatic of something more underlying. Especially the US, where we consume something like 2/3rds of the depression/anti-psychotic/etc drugs produced worldwide... I mean, are we 'sicker' than the rest of the world, or is the rest of the world just 'undiagnosed'? (ADHD in kids is virtually non-existent in Europe from what I've seen).
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Post by Deleted on Aug 4, 2015 2:08:39 GMT
That's interesting. It does seem as though ADHD is very common anymore with more adults being diagnosed also here in the US.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 4, 2015 3:19:33 GMT
I guess I just wonder if, perhaps, we're such a "fast paced stressed out" society these days that it takes it's toll in a lot of ways... relationships being one?
I mean economically a lot of people wind up working multiple jobs, longer hours, lower pay, etc... that's gotta take it's toll in a lot of ways...
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Post by tizzahell on Aug 4, 2015 4:58:12 GMT
Somewhere along the line we got into a "use it and, lose it"/throw away mentality, I think it carried over to relationships. People do not want to fix things any more, they just get new ones.
Mind you, with relationships like all things there come a time where it maybe can't be fixed anymore.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 4, 2015 5:58:43 GMT
Somewhere along the line we got into a "use it and, lose it"/throw away mentality, I think it carried over to relationships. People do not want to fix things any more, they just get new ones. Mind you, with relationships like all things there come a time where it maybe can't be fixed anymore. Actually funny you should say that... I lament that myself sometimes. I grew up with a "TV repairman" grandfather, I remember watching him fix TV's in the basement and going on house calls with him in the early 70s for those huge wooden console sets (hard to just pick up and take back to fix), boxes of vacuum tubes and stuff in his trunk, etc. Instilled in me a "fix it until it isn't worth fixing anymore" mentality in a way. Good and bad I suppose, like my computers are all used, vintage 2003, I did get a 20" LCD monitor after I whacked my back one day replacing a 21" CRY one (20lbs vs 80 - and gave away the 21)... never got an LCD TV, just got rid of the TV. Learned some basic plumbing as a homeowner, tiling, furnace repair, etc... you do what you can? Saves money. Of course today with all the tiny surface mount electronics "repair" is mainly expensive part/assembly swapping, so yeah, we've developed into a "toss it and buy a new one" mentality. Same with relationships? I dunno. There was a news story a few months back about a 17% (?) rise in STDs in Rhode Island that they attributed to the rise of the Tinder "hookup culture".
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Post by tizzahell on Aug 4, 2015 6:21:00 GMT
I coulda swore I replied to this again already... maybe I forgot to hit send??
Anyways, I had to google tinder; never heard of it before. Also I had to have an appliance repair man in about a month ago, he had to come from the next town over. I wonder if they are a dying breed?
Back on topic 50/50 relationships may not actually exist theoretically but, some people do still manage to hold onto their relationships for the long haul... both parties have to want it/work at it 100%
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Post by cobtact on Aug 4, 2015 8:04:46 GMT
this is turning out to be a good read...I am interested in that ADHD more in the states than Europe ...I bet it isn't a stress reason
hmmm...how can that be...its all I hear lately...perhaps its being pumped into the masses...for more multi task
worker bee mentality.... perhaps in the food chain...I don't think I have it...but I stayed away from kids..cell phones
working...coffee...sugar...tinder...any se-x and I am on valium...it wards off all that possible attention stuff
I raised myself watching the waltons...and still thrive for that life style and dynamic
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Post by Stumour on Aug 4, 2015 11:13:40 GMT
... and even then all that is probably just syptomatic of something more underlying. Especially the US, where we consume something like 2/3rds of the depression/anti-psychotic/etc drugs produced worldwide... I mean, are we 'sicker' than the rest of the world, or is the rest of the world just 'undiagnosed'? (ADHD in kids is virtually non-existent in Europe from what I've seen). Ya think? Ritalin is fed to weans here like candy for ADHD As for the happy pills, doctors have been told not to be so keen to fire them out willy nilly! OK, that's UK, not Europe. Personally, I think lack of functioning relationships on all levels has more than a little to do with this
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Post by swannie on Aug 4, 2015 13:42:58 GMT
Attention deficit could mean a number of things couldn't it. I guess it's easy to blame the parents deficit of attention to said child, certainly drugs knock them out enough to give parents a break rather than taking the child out in the woods and connecting with nature. But maybe Adhd kids just need different stimulation and maybe the paren't cant understand what they need ... I have been asked by school if my daughter was adhd ... no she's dyslexic highly intelligent and bloody bored. Get her outside with dogs and horses and she's a delight.
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Post by tizzahell on Aug 4, 2015 23:25:44 GMT
this is turning out to be a good read...I am interested in that ADHD more in the states than Europe ...I bet it isn't a stress reason
hmmm...how can that be...its all I hear lately...perhaps its being pumped into the masses...for more multi task
worker bee mentality.... perhaps in the food chain...I don't think I have it...but I stayed away from kids..cell phones
working...coffee...sugar...tinder...any se-x and I am on valium...it wards off all that possible attention stuff
I raised myself watching the waltons...and still thrive for that life style and dynamic
I did a lot of those things cobs. I am not on doctor prescriptions for anything... the kids could have inherited my ADD though?? Maybe we Americans are just more gullible in general?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2015 6:14:26 GMT
Kermit the frog: "After careful thought, thoughtful consideration and considerable squabbling, Miss Piggy made the difficult decision to terminate our romantic relationship. We will continue to work together on television (“The Muppets”/Tuesdays 8pm this fall on ABC) and in all media now known or hereafter devised, in perpetuity, throughout the universe. However, our personal lives are now distinct and separate, and we will be seeing other people, pigs, frogs, et al. This is our only comment on this private matter. Thank you for your understanding." If Kermit & Miss Piggy can't make it work, what hope do we have?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2015 0:46:24 GMT
Attention deficit could mean a number of things couldn't it. I guess it's easy to blame the parents deficit of attention to said child, certainly drugs knock them out enough to give parents a break rather than taking the child out in the woods and connecting with nature. But maybe Adhd kids just need different stimulation and maybe the paren't cant understand what they need ... I have been asked by school if my daughter was adhd ... no she's dyslexic highly intelligent and bloody bored. Get her outside with dogs and horses and she's a delight. I found this especially interesting because I knew a family that had 5 children - 4 of which were diagnosed with ADAH. I did wonder if the home life were the issue because the parents were in their own world. The father was working on his hobbies and the mother was playing video games, which meant that the kids fended for themselves most of the time. I know I judged. I don't know that I was fair.
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