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Post by Deleted on Feb 22, 2020 21:12:00 GMT
I always had her down as this after 2 drinks More like this:
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Post by Deleted on Feb 22, 2020 21:17:55 GMT
I always had her down as this after 2 drinks More like this: Ouch! Shots fired! RATATAT
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Post by Deleted on Feb 22, 2020 21:42:15 GMT
Well any ** questions can be asked here since I believe she's a member.
Under a different name of course.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 22, 2020 22:11:16 GMT
She seems very silent here @overunity and not her usual self ;)
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Post by Deleted on Feb 22, 2020 22:13:58 GMT
She was warned last summer what would happen if she tried her shit here.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 22, 2020 23:42:45 GMT
Really, she's here? Now I'm curious. Though I was swimming in the pond forums since 2007, after the first few years I wandered into the poetry corner and never really came out until a few of us played around a bit on a couple of other sites and then started this one.
So most of these people you speak of I never had the pleasure of 'meeting' there until you mention they might be playing here too. Maybe one day I'll put the dots together. If not, no problem. Sometimes having a blank slate is a good thing.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 23, 2020 0:21:48 GMT
Know the name but no face..
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Feb 23, 2020 0:40:34 GMT
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Post by awesomejoe73 on Feb 23, 2020 0:40:34 GMT
Bring her on!
As for being a princess, mooching off guys is demon like. The thing is if she really was a traditional type lady, she wouldn't be asking guys to drive her to specific restaurants. Traditional guys picked the lady up and picked the place. They even ordered for the lady. They of course should find out what the lady likes but the man chose and told the waiter. Secondly, going to restaurants were a special occasion. First dates were often walking in the park or around the block even to get acquainted cc with one another. Not let's go here and buy me this. Seriously, if a gal tells a guy to buy her something, I don't see how that's better than a guy telling a gal he expects sex. About Newyorkgal..was awol when she was most active but from lurking I see she and myself would never agree.
@spectra..i have 9 cams that view my cats. When we were on a cruise in 2018 I had to point out when the cat sitter came where one of them went. From the cruise I saw recording of my cat squeezing into a tight spot because afraid of the gal who fed him.
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Post by bendingbough19 on Feb 23, 2020 0:44:28 GMT
Yeah her and Eternity were "fruit from the same loom". Her points weren't valid , as you say:
1. Actually , men grooming and clothing can cost more. Today men spend a lot on hair products and suits and good shoes and cologne and etc,etc, etc. They also spend on the gym. Some even get manicures. Men OFTEN DO it because they are motivated by women.Oh and lets not forget men generally to be masculine have to has to have a REAL watch. Men are often looked down in business if they don't wear one.
Women on the other hand often do do all the fuss , more for competition with other women. They IMHO are looking to impress other females. Most men don't even notice a women's toes and nails UNLESS its like Freddy Kruger. Men generally don't care what brand a women's clothing are. I mean, half the clothes women buy in stores has to be for other women because its downright repulsive for many men. Flower dresses? Never met a guy turned on by that. Sandals with SPARKLY things? Same.
Unless those pond gals are showing up in 6 inch heels and mini skirts(black preferred) and have the figure to pull it off....chances are MOST men on a basic visual level aren't going to get excited. I am sorry to tell them that. They might as well wear pajamas..at least the men might get excited by the fact that its a possible invitation to the bedroom.
My other issue was that they cook for their men in return. Since they rejected 99.999999% of the men on the 1st date and rarely any made it to the "cook at home date" ...I wouldn't hold my breath. I mean base on their ** (BAD ATTITUDE), a date would well be in their rights to charge them for the tolls and gas used to drive to meet them. Heck, I would send them a bill for my car maintenance too. Whats good for the goose..they were so much into transactions, you think they were cashiers.
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No idea why my attempts to quote and reply make it look like I am part of the original post, but... I think that you are right, Joe. I get compliments in person from men all the time, and a few make remarks that lead me to think that they think I spend a lot of money on my clothes. As an example, one man this week was talking about the women in the building where we work and said that he can tell I take the trouble to invest in myself and could tell just by the way I dressed. But my skirt was $7 and my t-shirt was $15. The shoes were so old that I can no longer remember the price but I can assure you they were under $50 for sure. The thing is, he WAS dressed expensively, including that good watch that you referred to. He had a great suit jacket on too. I can't remember the rest of what he was wearing... I actually think it was jeans, but nice ones. Anyway, my point is, there was the appearance of investment in his appearance and I don't think I was wrong in my presumption that his clothing, etc. cost a heck of a lot more than mine. And while I don't know whether he uses the gym, I assume he does because he is a black belt in something or another. I know that he volunteers to teach kids whatever it is he does but he is extremely fit so I doubt very much that his volunteer time is the only time he is active. Meanwhile, I get away with very inexpensive clothing and some pieces of workout equipment that I use in my home rather than a membership somewhere. And while I don't (won't) do things like mani/pedis, or perfume, and cut/colour my hair myself, and use only common drugstore brands for makeup and shampoo/conditioner, I do agree that it is very easy for men to spend as much or more on grooming and presenting their best self as it does for women.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 23, 2020 0:53:54 GMT
Yup, the trick is looking like a million bucks when you only spend $20. :) My ex husband would ask me when I was putting make-up on who I was doing it for? And I honestly had to say it was for me. I felt better if I felt I looked better. Course a compliiment from him would have felt good too, and that was never forthcoming, so I really was making myself look nice for me and never to impress other women, nor men. Oh, bendingbough19 , how to get your writing out of the quote box is after the quote is there, scroll down below it until you see the line of separation and write your response below the line. It doesn't show until you slide the quote box up and then it appears. If you start writing in the quote box, you can't remove it. It's an odd glitch and slightly a nuisance.
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Post by bendingbough19 on Feb 23, 2020 1:08:03 GMT
Yup, the trick is looking like a million bucks when you only spend $20. :) My ex husband would ask me when I was putting make-up on who I was doing it for? And I honestly had to say it was for me. I felt better if I felt I looked better. Course a compliiment from him would have felt good too, and that was never forthcoming, so I really was making myself look nice for me and never to impress other women, nor men. Oh, bendingbough19 , how to get your writing out of the quote box is after the quote is there, scroll down below it until you see the line of separation and write your response below the line. It doesn't show until you slide the quote box up and then it appears. If you start writing in the quote box, you can't remove it. It's an odd glitch and slightly a nuisance. Thank you willow, I hope this works. And willow, I am the same as you. I dress and groom for me and always have, ever since I can remember. I went to boarding school for highschool. During school hours, we wore a uniform. After school hours, we wore whatever but there were girls there from all over the world so we didn't all look alike. I'm on my way to 55 so obviously, this was before social media and we had only one tv for the whole school so I never watched it except for the final episode of Mash, hence, never had a concept of what Hollywood women were doing. I didn't go home during holidays since home was pretty awful so had no idea what my old friends were wearing. Long story short, I had no concept of what girls/ women were wearing in the "outside" world. So I just went on to university and every other "next" stage of life without adhering to the fashion norms. Be assured, I have had many individuals, especially women, be critical of of me wearing make up and heels. To each his/her own. To me, those who have taken that critical view look pretty rough around the edges. If that is what suits them, that is great. It isn't what suits me, and never having been a follower, I will continue to do what suits me :-).
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Post by cooldog65 on Feb 23, 2020 5:24:12 GMT
Any of these so called expenses for dating are mostly things that will have multiple uses and they will be used whether you're dating or not.
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Post by awesomejoe73 on Feb 23, 2020 7:11:09 GMT
Exactly, it's not like they are running out to buy new outfits to please their dates. But if they wanna play it like that, their dates should feed them a bag of leftovers.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 23, 2020 12:43:08 GMT
Who pays? Honestly whoever wants to. In my book paying for yourself is the natural way and if I'm feeling very generous, paying for the other person is possible too, if they accept it. If they want to pay, I have no problem with them paying, but I make it clear that doesn't mean automatic hanky panky later.
Who spends more to make themselves pretty for their dates? Seems it's pretty even steven if the couple matches up in self image values.
But I have no idea how young people can afford all the expensive self pampering so many seem to do from gym memberships to hairdressing, fake tanning and exceptionally long fake nails.
Of course I realize everyone spends their money as they wish, and gym membership is a health enhancer, not just image, but I'm not a fan of some of the other popular 'enhancements' that seem to have become a necessity of life for many of the young these days.
The other often weekly expense for the young that seems to encourage using one's flirtation techniques to get taken care of is going out to clubs and drinking the night away. I don't understand how anyone can afford that on a regular basis, nor would want to personally. But it is still such a big part of the natural order it seems, I imagine the only way these ladies can do it is to pretend interest and accept the free drinks until they find a hot one they really like.
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Post by bendingbough19 on Feb 23, 2020 13:58:07 GMT
Who pays? Honestly whoever wants to. In my book paying for yourself is the natural way and if I'm feeling very generous, paying for the other person is possible too, if they accept it. If they want to pay, I have no problem with them paying, but I make it clear that doesn't mean automatic hanky panky later. Who spends more to make themselves pretty for their dates? Seems it's pretty even steven if the couple matches up in self image values. But I have no idea how young people can afford all the expensive self pampering so many seem to do from gym memberships to hairdressing, fake tanning and exceptionally long fake nails. Of course I realize everyone spends their money as they wish, and gym membership is a health enhancer, not just image, but I'm not a fan of some of the other popular 'enhancements' that seem to have become a necessity of life for many of the young these days. The other often weekly expense for the young that seems to encourage using one's flirtation techniques to get taken care of is going out to clubs and drinking the night away. I don't understand how anyone can afford that on a regular basis, nor would want to personally. But it is still such a big part of the natural order it seems, I imagine the only way these ladies can do it is to pretend interest and accept the free drinks until they find a hot one they really like. Willow, don't forget the false eyelashes and brow microblading too :-). These are common, at least around here. I don't really have much of an idea as to how many here have gym memberships. There are some, for sure, but since I don't have one and probably glaze over if anyone brings it up, pretty sure I am out of the loop in knowing who frequents the gym :-). The fake lashes, brow microblading or at least getting a "pro" to do one's brows, and mani/pedis are used by just about every female I encounter or know around here, regardless of age. I don't have much of a concept about the pricing. I bought a friend a manicure about 5 years ago and I think it was $40 at that time, so would imagine it is at least that amount. I had a colleague in the past who talked about having someone go to her home to do her eyelashes and think she said it was around $60 for the monthly maintenance portion so it has to be more than that for the initial. And she mentioned that this person was a friend so she was probably getting a deal. When she was first getting her eyelashes done, it seemed like it was rare for others to do the same, now it seems like it is rare for women here to have their own eyelashes. I don't know about the fake tans. I am aware of a few who use self-tanners and a couple who go in for spray-tanning but it doesn't seem like the majority here do, at least not yet. Mind you, it is very common for folks here to travel out to someplace warm a couple of times during the Winters so it can be hard to tell if people are getting their tans updated by other means in between trips. I can't begin to imagine where the heck they get the money for these things and/or trips. If I had the money, I wouldn't be spending it on mani-pedis :-). I might travel if I had the funds, but I don't think I would be bothering with the resorts that people here go to - just not interesting to me.
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