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Post by bendingbough19 on Sept 8, 2020 14:08:14 GMT
^^ Yup, 2021 is gonna be the baby boomeranging year! For couples stuck indoors together all these months, what else is there to do? Oh I guess 2022 could also be a big baby year for the rest... all that new love bursting to make babies once they can safely, hopefully. 2023 to 2024 new boom in breakups / Divorces as really the people they were with was because they didn't really want to be all alone in a Pandemic 🤣
True. I'd hate to imagine now many are just sticking with someone because of Money at this time
I had expected to see and hear about more couples parting ways as a result of having to spend so much time together. I thought that without the distractions and hustle and bustle of everyday life, people would recognize they were not willing to do this cohabitation thing anymore. In particular, I have wondered how people carrying on long term affairs (I know a few) are managing. Their usual ways of meeting on the side were disrupted. Yet, I have seen no evidence that people are fed up with each other. Colour me surprised.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2020 16:17:58 GMT
2023 to 2024 new boom in breakups / Divorces as really the people they were with was because they didn't really want to be all alone in a Pandemic 🤣
True. I'd hate to imagine now many are just sticking with someone because of Money at this time
I had expected to see and hear about more couples parting ways as a result of having to spend so much time together. I thought that without the distractions and hustle and bustle of everyday life, people would recognize they were not willing to do this cohabitation thing anymore. In particular, I have wondered how people carrying on long term affairs (I know a few) are managing. Their usual ways of meeting on the side were disrupted. Yet, I have seen no evidence that people are fed up with each other. Colour me surprised. People will always find a way to carry on an affair. It adds a new thrill and dimension. Hope they get caught and lose everything lol. I really do.
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Post by bendingbough19 on Sept 8, 2020 16:27:38 GMT
I had expected to see and hear about more couples parting ways as a result of having to spend so much time together. I thought that without the distractions and hustle and bustle of everyday life, people would recognize they were not willing to do this cohabitation thing anymore. In particular, I have wondered how people carrying on long term affairs (I know a few) are managing. Their usual ways of meeting on the side were disrupted. Yet, I have seen no evidence that people are fed up with each other. Colour me surprised. People will always find a way to carry on an affair. It adds a new thrill and dimension. Hope they get caught and lose everything lol. I really do. Honestly, I can't see how their spouses don't already know. I think some people just find it easier to stay.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2020 17:04:06 GMT
People will always find a way to carry on an affair. It adds a new thrill and dimension. Hope they get caught and lose everything lol. I really do. Honestly, I can't see how their spouses don't already know. I think some people just find it easier to stay. Some, I guess, actually trust their partners. They cheat and lie to someone they apparently love.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 9, 2020 1:28:13 GMT
I thought one reason affairs happen is because the person cheating is feeling a lack of love and sexuality in their home relationship/marriage.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 9, 2020 11:11:23 GMT
I thought one reason affairs happen is because the person cheating is feeling a lack of love and sexuality in their home relationship/marriage. Well, There is a need or needs not being met. If not then try communicating it. Cake and eat it comes to mind, though.
I don't think we were ever meant to be 1 on 1 relationship wise and a lot of evidence suggests that.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 9, 2020 13:56:44 GMT
I thought one reason affairs happen is because the person cheating is feeling a lack of love and sexuality in their home relationship/marriage. Well, There is a need or needs not being met. If not then try communicating it. Cake and eat it comes to mind, though.
I don't think we were ever meant to be 1 on 1 relationship wise and a lot of evidence suggests that.
Ding, ding, ding......we have a winner.
The only evidence I need is my own desire.
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Post by bendingbough19 on Sept 9, 2020 14:33:22 GMT
I thought one reason affairs happen is because the person cheating is feeling a lack of love and sexuality in their home relationship/marriage. I think the reasons are as varied as the people having them. I also think at least some people don't really know why they do what they do and simply offer up the most plausible explanation. In all honesty, I look back at how I have changed over the decades and cannot see that many people would be suited to stay in one relationship forever. I know of some couples who claim to be very happy together. I guess I can never be certain of the validity of such claims. Spectra, I understand the sentiment to hope the spouse finds out, but I also believe many know and accept it because frankly, they reap benefits from staying and accepting things as they are as well. I know, not a romantic view but it is how I see things.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 9, 2020 20:40:23 GMT
I thought one reason affairs happen is because the person cheating is feeling a lack of love and sexuality in their home relationship/marriage. I think the reasons are as varied as the people having them. I also think at least some people don't really know why they do what they do and simply offer up the most plausible explanation. In all honesty, I look back at how I have changed over the decades and cannot see that many people would be suited to stay in one relationship forever. I know of some couples who claim to be very happy together. I guess I can never be certain of the validity of such claims. Spectra, I understand the sentiment to hope the spouse finds out, but I also believe many know and accept it because frankly, they reap benefits from staying and accepting things as they are as well. I know, not a romantic view but it is how I see things. I have no doubt in some cases they know and I'm sure many Women or Men do not act as to keep the family unit together. Then you have the financial side.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 9, 2020 20:41:57 GMT
Well, There is a need or needs not being met. If not then try communicating it. Cake and eat it comes to mind, though.
I don't think we were ever meant to be 1 on 1 relationship wise and a lot of evidence suggests that.
Ding, ding, ding......we have a winner.
The only evidence I need is my own desire. and a lot of people have the same need and desires. It comes down to how you dress things up and if your upfront.
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Post by newyorker58 on Oct 23, 2020 9:29:13 GMT
Online dating is just another tool in the dating pool. There are a lot of people here because they were horrendous partners, but you find that out quick enough. I see way too many angry men online. They say that women are keeping them from dating, so they're angry at women. They never think to be someone that a woman would enjoy spending time with. They're actually a little scary.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2020 9:35:01 GMT
Online dating is just another tool in the dating pool. There are a lot of people here because they were horrendous partners, but you find that out quick enough. I see way too many angry men online. They say that women are keeping them from dating, so they're angry at women. They never think to be someone that a woman would enjoy spending time with. They're actually a little scary. Just like to note that does go both ways. And of course in any "orientation" - a gay man being "someone another man would enjoy spending time with", etc. Gotta maintain proper PC etiquette.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2020 10:31:58 GMT
Welcome newyorker58 ! I agree. And I agree with forums, it does go both ways. There are plenty of women too who have not accepted responsibility yet for the part they played in their past relationships. I was going to write failed relationships, but who’s to say they are meant to last a lifetime? Just because we vowed to when/if we married, or felt it in our hearts unmarried, think we all come to see lifelong promises and intentions mean nothing without the daily re-commitment to stay and make the most of it. So many of us in our 50’s and 60’s not only have realised and experienced this, and taken responsibility for our lives, I think we’re much more aware of the pitfalls now and more reluctant to get that deeply involved with another again. Now we know in relationships there are two egos to deal with and many of us have chosen instead to enjoy ourselves, our lives, the opposite sex, but we don’t need to intertwine our lives again to that degree where eventual incompatibility could be devastating again. Re: affairs. I agree many stay knowing the truth their partner is cheating. Sometimes I wonder if the tradeoff is worth it. You get a happier partner when they are home if you are willing to share. Most are not willing, again, trusting those vows of marriage to last a lifetime when most of the time they don’t.
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Post by newyorker58 on Oct 23, 2020 10:36:06 GMT
Online dating is just another tool in the dating pool. There are a lot of people here because they were horrendous partners, but you find that out quick enough. I see way too many angry men online. They say that women are keeping them from dating, so they're angry at women. They never think to be someone that a woman would enjoy spending time with. They're actually a little scary. Just like to note that does go both ways. And of course in any "orientation" - a gay man being "someone another man would enjoy spending time with", etc. Gotta maintain proper PC etiquette. I can only express that of which I know as a straight woman dating straight men. I'd like to hear from the men for what they're going through with dating woman that found themselves on the other side of the door of their marriage for their less than stellar behavior. I see we have new emojis at our disposal over what POF forums had
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2020 12:04:45 GMT
^^ or people just grow apart and has nothing really to do with behaviour in the sense of people doing something wrong.
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