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Post by cbgb77 on May 30, 2019 16:49:15 GMT
I wanted to start a thread called Relationships and Dating:a place to talk about coffee dates but I don't know where to put it.
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2019 17:21:49 GMT
^ "You can't expect someone to invest on you if they don't even know you".
Holy shit. A WOMAN said this??
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2019 18:36:41 GMT
Gosh, looking way back when I actually would meet strangers from pof, I always would want to meet first for coffee to see if we even wanted to go on a real date. And I would always pay for myself, so don't think I wanted free meals for nothing if it ever got that far, unlike one guy long ago who accused me of using him when it was clear he wasn't getting another meet, never mind anywhere near my knickers. Think I must have been number 5 that week for him. 🙄 But these are young women drinking cocktails here and probably haven't gotten disillusioned yet with the dating scene to know don't go on a date until you've met the guy first really casually and potentially quickly 'cuz most often there will be absolutely no attraction in person!! Sorry, was that a bit strong? I could put it stronger.... 😈 Re: where to put this, cbgb77 ? Noticed something really odd has happened. There was a dating and relationships board Stumour had put at the bottom of the home page which today seems to have disappeared into thin air. I've written him to ask if he can find it again. I even posted on the communications thread there the other day, so I know it was there. Hopefully it will re-appear soon so we can move this there.
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2019 19:25:06 GMT
I find it silly and petty that a woman would have any objections to a first meet being a "coffee date". I find them trite and boring, myself, but I never had an iron-clad rule that I would never have one.
The "girl, don't you ever settle!!" movement and romantic comedy movies have convinced many women they are entitled to extravagance and a man proving he's Prince Charming right out of the proverbial gate. This mindset continuously fails for them, yet they still cling to it for dear life.
However, I was lucky enough to have not met these types when I was meeting women on POF. They had their own money, went through a long, crappy marriage, and were simply looking to make up for lost time.
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2019 23:17:47 GMT
I think coffee date is a euphemism for I want to see if you look like your pictures and I can stand to be around you. Frankly, when I was dating I learned not go out for a meal because some people were so different than how they'd portrayed themselves. It didn't have to be coffee just something I could gracefully escape from. I imagine it is the same for men.
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Post by Stumour on May 30, 2019 23:41:09 GMT
You got it in one, @bug.... as for @thepigofyourdreams, dream on ya wanker that wakes up in crusty sheets
btw... if ye cannae handle a wee bit o teasing, take yer long flowing locks to yer usual tranny sites
edit... yes, that was cruel, but that is just my rank humour at times
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2019 0:14:00 GMT
I'm not worried whether it is a coffee or a couple of drinks on a first meet, but I do prefer to do it after 6 pm.
MMM, Wasn't there some sort of stat flying around that coffee dates at lunch time were less successful than dates that happen in an evening?
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2019 0:16:57 GMT
I find it silly and petty that a woman would have any objections to a first meet being a "coffee date". I find them trite and boring, myself, but I never had an iron-clad rule that I would never have one. The "girl, don't you ever settle!!" movement and romantic comedy movies have convinced many women they are entitled to extravagance and a man proving he's Prince Charming right out of the proverbial gate. This mindset continuously fails for them, yet they still cling to it for dear life. However, I was lucky enough to have not met these types when I was meeting women on POF. They had their own money, went through a long, crappy marriage, and were simply looking to make up for lost time. Don't know what Stumour's going on about :), but I think your points are really valid and unfortunately I have noticed since being back here that the entitled default in many people in this country is rather out of control. Seems to me if you want a prince, then you really must be worthy of being a princess in the most loveliest of ways. And frogs are cool, honestly, though I would not want to kiss one. Actually would not want to kiss or hug many things except my children, family, closest friends and pets these days. And no, not a tree hugger, but tree lover and appreciator. Guess I'm hopeless for ever getting even a coffee 'date' again. Stopped looking years ago and hid my profile 'over there' so no one would come looking for me either... only kept it cuz of the forums, and then only for the poetry forum the last many years. Not sure I'd ever want to do online dating again. Hmmm, might be an idea for another thread.....
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2019 0:20:45 GMT
I'm not worried whether it is a coffee or a couple of drinks on a first meet, but I do prefer to do it after 6 pm.
MMM, Wasn't there some sort of stat flying around that coffee dates at lunch time were less successful than dates that happen in an evening?
Gosh never heard of that stat. Guess that's where I went wrong! :) Seems to me what's the difference between meeting day or evening? If there's a connection or attraction, or not, why would time of day make any difference? Wonder if they were talking about likeliness of getting 'close'.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2019 0:40:42 GMT
I'm not worried whether it is a coffee or a couple of drinks on a first meet, but I do prefer to do it after 6 pm.
MMM, Wasn't there some sort of stat flying around that coffee dates at lunch time were less successful than dates that happen in an evening?
Gosh never heard of that stat. Guess that's where I went wrong! :) Seems to me what's the difference between meeting day or evening? If there's a connection or attraction, or not, why would time of day make any difference? Wonder if they were talking about likeliness of getting 'close'. I think the difference between day and night is that you're more likely to make poorer choices and the likeliness of doing the no panties dance :) I prefer evening as there is entertainment to be sought out and you can be like do you fancy going to see some live entertainment to prolong things? where in the day not got that opening to try spend more time together. Also its unlikely you have other plans if meeting in the evening but meeting in the day it is quite possible you do.
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Post by Stumour on May 31, 2019 0:51:13 GMT
@willow.... he was implying he met women on PoF.... plural.... fuckin tart
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2019 1:00:10 GMT
Play nice, Stumour. I remember not so long ago you sported long flowing locks too. How quickly they forget! 💜😊
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2019 13:33:26 GMT
I'm not worried whether it is a coffee or a couple of drinks on a first meet, but I do prefer to do it after 6 pm.
MMM, Wasn't there some sort of stat flying around that coffee dates at lunch time were less successful than dates that happen in an evening?
There is a stat for everything, but one is better off disregarding stats. Too many people use them to discourage themselves. If someone goes out on a date at lunch time and it ultimately leads to no second date/meet, it probably had more to do with other factors than the time of day. Stumour? You clearly want my attention (and who can blame you?) but I don't speak gibberish, and don't see a gibberish to English translator implemented here.
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Post by cooldog65 on May 31, 2019 16:38:19 GMT
I like coffee...that's the easy part. The rest...not to easy.
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Post by Stumour on May 31, 2019 16:45:49 GMT
One thing I will not do is meet in likes of Costa Fortune or Starfux.
Just meet in a street then start to greet cos they're better looking than you....
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