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Post by Stumour on Apr 23, 2013 1:46:32 GMT
Wonder how many partnerships break down through lack of communication leading to an unsatisfactory physical relationship.
I think that if you can't discuss likes/dislikes/limits then you ain't mature enough to be IN a relationship... or at least not with that person!
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Post by swannie on Apr 23, 2013 6:28:03 GMT
I think technically people don't HAVE to be mature to be in a relationship, or for it to be successful, I know some very immature people who successfully in long term relationships, they have just founf someone who can deal with them ... I would say that a lot of partnerships break down due to mis/noncommunication, not just sexually either but not sure that is maturity related. Interesting concept of what maturity is, then. What is maturity? Maybe it's different to each person?
Unsatisfactory sex lives do break relationships though, as sex is a crucial part of pair bonding.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 16:13:10 GMT
Wonder how many partnerships break down through lack of communication leading to an unsatisfactory physical relationship. I think that if you can't discuss likes/dislikes/limits then you ain't mature enough to be IN a relationship... or at least not with that person! In my marriage I found it was the opposite....unsatisfactory physical relationship led to lack of communicating...resulting in splitting up on and off for years. Final split took nine years, though there were signs we were in trouble very early on. So, I agree with Swannie in that... Though I also agree with Stu. In my other long-term relationship, physical connection is what kept us together, though our communication was not so strong.
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Post by swannie on Apr 23, 2013 17:58:25 GMT
I've had a relationship where the sex was the only good thing and kept us together for way longer than we should've been. That wasn't very mature, was it.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 18:40:21 GMT
^^ For me, it was just striking a balance. I wasn't about to give up the best sexual relationship I ever had...until I did. So not sure it has a whole lot to do with maturity....I just needed to balance what was lacking in my marriage, I think.
I'm also not sure about this idea of something should have happened at a different time or in a different way than it did.
As it was for me, I imagine it could have been for you also... maybe you were getting out of the relationship what you needed. When you no longer needed to do that, it changed.
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Post by Stumour on Apr 27, 2013 18:08:02 GMT
I've had a relationship that ended out of sheer frustration... she refused to communicate n I wanted more than the odd fumble... but couldn't explain that I wanted to know HER needs.
Ach... history now, so fooook it all...
Got me a gobshite now that talks AND listens!
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Post by auriela on Apr 28, 2013 0:35:25 GMT
I've had a relationship that ended out of sheer frustration... she refused to communicate n I wanted more than the odd fumble... but couldn't explain that I wanted to know HER needs. Ach... history now, so fooook it all... Got me a gobshite now that talks AND listens! Your terms of endearment for describing someone in your life is breathtaking
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Post by Deleted on Apr 28, 2013 1:27:20 GMT
'breathtaking' is a lovely way to put it. :)
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Post by auriela on Apr 28, 2013 21:28:21 GMT
'breathtaking' is a lovely way to put it. :) Thank you Willow for your comment. I realise that gobshite is a glaswegian word for you are a wonderful person but i would prefer the english term for it
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2013 18:20:26 GMT
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